‘Come Around’ follows a pair of Filipino parents who deal with the aftermath of their daughter Bela coming out as gay. Bela’s parents must learn to accept her sexuality before their relationship is permanently strained. Through their interactions in the kitchen, they gradually grow apart but eventually find their way to each other.
The film starts with a family eating dinner together. At first glance, it is apparent that there is tension in the silence that permeates the scene. Bela, the teenager, picked at her food sullenly as her parents ate wordlessly. Bela threw a look at her mother and was reminded of the day disappointment and anger were painted on her parents’ faces. Bela, herself, is gloomy. A direct opposite of when she is with her special friend, Grace.
Bela is taken back to when her mother was mad at her, raising her voice at how “this is not how friends act” and “this is not how we raised you” as she went on about how they left their entire lives in the Philippines for the American dream, only for Bela to shatter their dreams and expectations for her, presumably directed at Bela and Grace’s special relationship. Bela answered that they were not doing anything wrong. Her mother, however, asked Grace to leave.
(Sometime after their confrontation, Grace and Bela are seen hanging out back in Bela’s house while her parents are out. Bela savored the stolen moment.)
Days after their confrontation, Bela attempted to talk to her mother about finding out about her sexuality. Bela asked her to try but her mother was very much against it, saying her sexuality was against everything they believed in. Furthermore, her mother is concerned about other people’s opinions. Bela answered that she does not care about what other people think. Her mother countered that they would never be able to accept her sexual orientation so does that not matter to her?
What does matter? Bela thinks and is taken back to their confrontation once more. Does it matter that she is gay? What does matter? Bela thinks back to her happy moments with Grace, the laughter, the warmth, the embraces, and their hands around their mugs.
Bela is gay and she told her mom when confronted. Her mother claimed that she was disgusting.
What matters, then, when their family starts to break under the weight of the reality of her sexuality? Their dinners become more awkward, their conversations turn more stilted, and the silence grows bigger.